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Writing Day 21 – Notes on Willpower

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Started: 2018-05-14
Finished: 2018-05-14

Willpower is like a muscle.

There’s only so much of it that you can use if you don’t train it.
And it gets tired and depleted of its energy reserves, if you just use it rashly.

You need to train it, bulk it up and make it strong so that you can then use it to create change.

As Baumeister states in the conclusion of the book,

Self-control is ultimately about much more than self-help.
It’s essential for savoring your time on earth and sharing joy with the people you love.
People with stronger willpower are more altruistic.
They’re more likely to donate to charity, to do volunteer work, and to offer their own homes as shelter to someone with no place to go.
Willpower evolved because it was crucial for our ancestors to get along with the rest of the clan, and it’s still serving that purpose today.
Inner discipline still leads to outer kindness.

Notes from the book

Willpower 101, First Lesson: Know Your Limits

No matter what you want to achieve, playing offense begins by recognizing two basic lessons
1. Your supply of willpower is limited, and
2. you use the same resource for many different things.

Watch for Symptoms

Do things seem to bother you more than they should? Has the volume somehow been turned up on your life so that things are felt more strongly than usual? Is it suddenly hard to make up your mind about even simple things?
If you notice such feelings, then reflect on the last few hours and see if it seems likely that you have depleted your willpower.

While you’re depleted, frustrations will bother you more than usual. You’ll be more prone to say something you’ll regret.
Impulses to eat, drink, spend, or do other things will be harder than usual to resist.

Pick Your Battles

You can’t control or even predict the stresses that come into your life, but you can use the calm periods, or at least the peaceful moments, to plan an offence.

When you pick your battles, look beyond the immediate challenges and put your life in perspective.
Are you where you want to be? What could be better? What can you do about it?
You can’t do this every day, of course, and certainly not during busy, stressful times, but you can set aside at least one day a year—maybe your birthday—to do some reflection and write down notes on how well you spent the previous year.
If you make this an annual ritual, you can look back over the notes from previous years to see what kinds of progress you’ve made in the past: which goals were met, which goals remain, which ones are hopeless.

Tactics

  • Make a To-Do List—or at Least a To-Don’t List

    • Write & Prioritise stuff
  • Beware the Planning Fallacy

    • When was the last time you heard of a highway or building being completed six months early? Late and over budget is the norm. One way to avoid the planning fallacy is to force yourself to think about your past.
  • Don’t Forget the Basics

    • While cutbacks might seem a fair price to pay in order to channel all you energies into preparing for exams, In the long run, slovenliness can leave you with less energy—and fewer healthy relationships.
      Self-control will be most effective if you take good basic care of your body, starting with diet and sleep.
  • Use The Power of Positive Procrastination (like The Nothing Alternative)

    • Do what Raymond Chandler did to write his books. Use the Nothing Alternative; a marvelously simple tool against procrastination for just about any kind of task.
      Set aside time to do one and only one thing. You can look out of the window or stand on your head or writhe on the floor, but you are not to do any other positive thing.
      You might, for instance, resolve to start your day with ninety minutes devoted to your most important goal, with no interruptions from e-mail or phone calls, no side excursions anywhere on the Web.
  • Keep Track

    • Besides offering immediate encouragement, monitoring lets you improve your long-term planning. If you keep records, you can periodically check how far you’ve come so that you can set more realistic goals for the future.
  • Reward Often

    • When you set a goal, set a reward for reaching it—and then don’t stiff yourself. If you just use willpower to deny yourself things, it becomes a grim, thankless form of defense. But when you use it to gain something, you can wring pleasure out of the dreariest tasks. We’ve criticized the everybody-gets-a-trophy philosophy of the self-esteem movement, but trophies for genuine accomplishments are fine.
      Which incentives work? A mix of frequent small prizes with occasional big ones.

Happy Mother’s Day, Mummy!

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A day late, but Happy Mother’s day Mummy!
Aunty L made me forget yesterday :)
Better late than never though!

I could not have asked God for a better mummy than you!
We love you for all you are and all you do!

Writing Day 19 – Artemis

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Started: 2018-05-07
Finished: 2018-05-10

Done with Artemis.
If you like sci-fi well told, if you liked the Martian, you’ll love Artemis.

I did audio this time and was in for a pleasant surprise.
Rosario Dawson reads the book. Yes. That Rosario “Badass” Dawson!

And of course, she makes for a badass narrator too.
Listening to her go, “Shit! Shit! Shittity Shit!” is a hoot.

Instead of a solo guy stranded on Mars, this one is all about the first lunar city (the titular Artemis) with it’s settlement domes and loads of intrigue

Andy Weir opts for a heroine this time and Jazz Beshara is badasser than Watney ever was. (aah, which is why they got Dawson to narrate, natch)

I wish he’d put more drama into the endings though. They always wind down properly and logically.

Totally worth your time time.


Writing Day 17 – Practice Makes Perfect

“Since I was very young, I’ve played all kinds of music: bar mitzvah music, Sousa marches, strip-club music, jazz, pop.

Everything.

I didn’t have to learn a thing to do Michael Jackson.”

“You’re supposed to use everything from the past.
If you know where you come from, it’s easier to get where you’re going. Musical principles exist, man. Musicians today can’t go all the way with the music because they haven’t done their homework with the left brain.
Music is emotion and science.
You don’t have to practice emotion because that comes naturally.
Technique is different. If you can’t get your finger between three and four and seven and eight on a piano, you can’t play. You can only get so far without technique. People limit themselves musically. Do these musicians know tango? Macumba? Yoruba music? Samba? Bossa nova? Salsa? Cha-cha?”

— Quincy Jones

via the ever awesome Tren Griffin.